The Unsolvable Riddle

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An innate problem-solver, I tend to believe there’s a solution to every problem. All I need to do is find it. I get the most frustrated when I come across those pesky unsolvable problems. And there are plenty. That’s right. Bear with me for a moment. You see, sometimes there are things that happen, circumstances that hinder us, that are beyond our control to fix. I have to be careful that my desire to solve problems doesn’t leave me with feelings of discontent for circumstances I can’t change. What can I do when faced with problems I can’t fix? Continue reading “The Unsolvable Riddle”

Headlines Got You Down?

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Despairing businessman sitting at his desk in his office resting his forehead in his hands as he considers the hopelessness of the situation

So it happens. I click on the news channel and hear headlines like:

Somewhere there was a mass shooting; a police officer killed someone; someone killed a police officer; a politician did something unfavorable; people were killed in a terrorist attack . . .

What? That’s a depressing start to the day. The problem is this is nearly every day. How on earth am I supposed to keep up on all of these happenings without feeling hopeless and depressed? I’d love to say it’s as easy as stop watching the news. HA! Doesn’t work. I still see it. I read the headlines in my news app. Plus, I can’t exactly Continue reading “Headlines Got You Down?”

Try Try Try Again … Wait, What?

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Photo Credit: IceSabre via Compfight cc

“If at first you don’t succeed, try try try again.” This saying is fundamentally flawed, and here’s why.

The other day my toddler was getting frustrated because she couldn’t get her puzzle piece to fit. She was furiously trying to shove the piece into the wrong place. To try and help her I quoted the age-old saying, “If at first you don’t succeed, try try try again.” After saying this I realized how ridiculous that is! After all, don’t they say the definition of insanity is trying the same thing over and over again expecting different results? The saying should go more like, Continue reading “Try Try Try Again … Wait, What?”

Secrets of Empathic Leadership

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It’s late in the day on a Thursday. You’re already running late for your umpteenth meeting of the day and your employee walks into your door with another problem. Great. Just what you need and don’t have time for. You try and brush your assistant off by telling him you have another meeting but he hesitates. So you ask “what is it?” He tells you he has a problem with the copy vendor. You say, “well, deal with it!” and storm out. As similar encounters happen, you continue to blow him off getting frustrated that he doesn’t know how to problem solve these issues. After a few months you notice his performance is slipping, and he’s reserved and hesitant around you. You get more frustrated wondering whether he’s going to get with it or if you’re going to have to let him go. Maybe. Or maybe Continue reading “Secrets of Empathic Leadership”

Keys to a Problem-Solving Mindset

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There’s no questioning that problems cause some level of unhappiness in all of us. However, I challenge you to question whether it’s the problem that’s the issue, or your mindset about the problem. When presented with a brick wall, what do you do? Do you grab a chair, look for a box of tissues and an audience to cry about your brick wall to? Or, do you look for a sledge hammer, a climbing rope, a ladder, a shovel, or start walking alongside it until you find an opening? Whatever you do, you need the right tools for the job. This starts Continue reading “Keys to a Problem-Solving Mindset”

How to Succeed When Your Boss Doesn’t Play Fair

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Photo Credit: Paul Wicks via Compfight cc

In the beginning, you got along great. Your boss had this way about him, a gregarious personality that drew you into his stories, ideals, and goals. Yet, as time went along, you began to realize something. Everything was about him. You noticed he shut down your ideas only to present them two weeks later as his own. When things went right, he took all the credit and when things went wrong, he threw you under the bus. Continue reading “How to Succeed When Your Boss Doesn’t Play Fair”

The Hardest Person to Forgive

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Photo Credit: rumpleteaser via Compfight cc

Sometimes the most important person you need to forgive for past mistakes and hardships is the most difficult. Forgiveness is directed at the person who created the problem. What do you do when the person who created the problem is you, when the one you need most to forgive is the person in the mirror? Continue reading “The Hardest Person to Forgive”

Create Your Own Peace in a Noisy World

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Photo Credit: TP studio via Compfight cc

I’ve learned that being a parent is a noisy job. I’ve been a mom for nearly three years, and most days the noise doesn’t affect me. The toys, the banging, the laughing, the screaming, the crying. I’ve become immune to it to a certain degree. Then there are other days I feel like the Grinch complaining about the Whos and all the noise, noise, noise, noise, NOISE! I feel like I must put a stop to all the noise. The popcorn popper, the V-Tech toys, the tantrum screams, the thuds as thrown toys hit the walls, the dog barking, seemingly endless cries of “Mommy!” Continue reading “Create Your Own Peace in a Noisy World”

Sometimes a Bite of Humble Pie is Better Than Being Right

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Photo Credit: symphony of love via Compfight cc

“Stay hungry, stay young, stay foolish, stay curious, and above all, stay humble because just when you think you got all the answers, is the moment when some bitter twist of fate in the universe will remind you that you very much don’t.” ― Tom Hiddleston

There are many times I catch myself in the vice of being right. I know I am right about something, so how can I tolerate the words of someone who is clearly wrong? Continue reading “Sometimes a Bite of Humble Pie is Better Than Being Right”

How to Keep Calm When Everyone is Screaming

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It’s one of those days. I sigh as I watch my toddler have her third knock-down-drag-out meltdown temper tantrum of the day, and it’s only 9:00 in the morning. ‘What is it this time?’ I wonder as I ask her what is wrong. Turns out she wanted the blue sippy cup not the red one. ‘Oh. My. Gosh. What the heck is wrong with this kid?!’ I think as I walk away. Before I can collect my thoughts the infant falls and busts her lip on a wooden block. Suddenly I’m trying to comfort her while listening to screaming in stereo as I get hit in the back with my toddler’s launched sippy cup. Continue reading “How to Keep Calm When Everyone is Screaming”

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